“Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat.” — F. Scott Fitzgerald
Imagine if you could do anything in the world without feeling fear or any negative feelings. It’s definitely possible, if you put your mind to it…Here are a few tips to remember:
Did something incorrectly? Made a mistake? Messed up big time? Then, learn from your past mistakes. Don’t run from them. Evaluate your shortcomings, and use that to propel yourself into your future endeavors. If you never fail, you will never know what success really is.
Often, when we fear something, we see that it’s just the unknown portion that makes us fear it. We often fear things we don’t understand or haven’t tried doing before. When you take the time to understand your fear, you will be able to properly address it.
Just jump, don’t look back! There are so many opportunities that I would have missed out on if I gave in to my hesitations due to fear. Your life will be much more fulfilled knowing you felt afraid, pushed past it, and learned you are stronger than you ever thought possible. David Joseph Schwartz once said, “To fight fear, act. To increase fear – wait, put off, postpone.”
What are you missing right now? When you center yourself in the present, you realize that everything is how it is and should be. You naturally accept the present as reality. Tapping into the now can be as simple as feeling your body and breath. I recommend reading Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle to learn more about living in the NOW.
Whenever fear strikes, turn it into something positive. Instead of thinking of something bad that can happen, think of what good will come out of your fear. Changing your mentality can go a long way to alleviate fear.
Many people have a tendency to do things a faster pace than is necessary or beneficial to their best interests. Practice taking your time when eating, driving and engaging in the tasks of everyday living. It can be useful to post reminders of this intention in prominent places in order to support yourself.
Even if those around us are multitasking, we don’t have to. Manage your priorities and set realistic deadlines.
When you know that you are going to be exposed, prepare yourself in advance. Think through how you are going to deal with it, before you get there. Many people find that, with preparation, they can handle just about anything.
Complexity is hard to digest, and if you try, you will feel overwhelmed and unable to face your fear. Everything will feel hopeless and not worth doing, because you just don’t know how. For your sake, just keep things simple.
When you jump into a swimming pool it usually doesn’t feel good at first, right? Then a few minutes later it feels warmer and good to be inside. Did someone warm up the pool? Or did we adjust? We have the capacity to adjust to change, but that takes time. So be patient.
About Alex Noudelman
Alex Noudelman is a digital marketing expert at iRISEmedia. He received his Honors B.A. from York University and a Masters in Adolescent Education from D’Youville College.